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Dear incoming freshman,
Going away to college is incredibly exciting. And if you're anything like me, it gives you slight anxiety. I'm not the best person at making friends, so that was my main insecurity.
When I went away to university, it took me a while to make friends. Being completely alone made me want to keep to myself. Eventually, I found a great group of people to be a part of. We hung out daily and planned to room together the following year. But I still kept to myself a little too much.
My sophomore year at university, I found an amazing organization: Alpha Phi Omega, a coed community service fraternity. It was everything I could have asked for in an organization. It was a group of friends who devoted their time to giving back to the community. I pledged, I crossed, I became a brother. But that's all I did. Yes, I made some friends, but I still kept to myself a little too much (are you seeing a pattern here?).
I kept to myself during my four years at college, because subconsciously I thought that if I didn't try to make friends, I wouldn't be disappointed if people didn't want to be my friend.
My third year (sixth semester) in Alpha Phi Omega is coming to an end. I have a couple friends, but it's been three years. I'm still friends with the girls I met freshman year, but I don't have many, if any, outside of that. I have no one to blame but myself.
Moral of the story: do not keep to yourself because you're scared or feel awkward. Put yourself out there. Try. Learn from my mistakes. Don't look at the amazing people you've met in classes, organizations, or just walking around campus and realize that you never really got to know them or call them your friends. Now you can't. Now it's too late. Whether you join an organization or just meet friends in the dorms or in classes, put yourself out there. Because it's a much worse feeling to wonder if you could have made amazing life long friends than to feel awkward that someone did not want to be your friend.
There are approximately 7,310,751,740 people in the world. Each of us are unique. Don't miss out on meeting amazing people. Trust me.
A bit of awkwardness in the beginning will save you a lifetime of regret. Do not be scared of people finding out who you are. You're great; I promise.
Sincerely,
A lifetime loner
Going away to college is incredibly exciting. And if you're anything like me, it gives you slight anxiety. I'm not the best person at making friends, so that was my main insecurity.
When I went away to university, it took me a while to make friends. Being completely alone made me want to keep to myself. Eventually, I found a great group of people to be a part of. We hung out daily and planned to room together the following year. But I still kept to myself a little too much.
My sophomore year at university, I found an amazing organization: Alpha Phi Omega, a coed community service fraternity. It was everything I could have asked for in an organization. It was a group of friends who devoted their time to giving back to the community. I pledged, I crossed, I became a brother. But that's all I did. Yes, I made some friends, but I still kept to myself a little too much (are you seeing a pattern here?).
I kept to myself during my four years at college, because subconsciously I thought that if I didn't try to make friends, I wouldn't be disappointed if people didn't want to be my friend.
My third year (sixth semester) in Alpha Phi Omega is coming to an end. I have a couple friends, but it's been three years. I'm still friends with the girls I met freshman year, but I don't have many, if any, outside of that. I have no one to blame but myself.
Moral of the story: do not keep to yourself because you're scared or feel awkward. Put yourself out there. Try. Learn from my mistakes. Don't look at the amazing people you've met in classes, organizations, or just walking around campus and realize that you never really got to know them or call them your friends. Now you can't. Now it's too late. Whether you join an organization or just meet friends in the dorms or in classes, put yourself out there. Because it's a much worse feeling to wonder if you could have made amazing life long friends than to feel awkward that someone did not want to be your friend.
There are approximately 7,310,751,740 people in the world. Each of us are unique. Don't miss out on meeting amazing people. Trust me.
A bit of awkwardness in the beginning will save you a lifetime of regret. Do not be scared of people finding out who you are. You're great; I promise.
Sincerely,
A lifetime loner
